Amy is so incredibly strong!
During the course of our lives, we must all make corrections. If we fall out of practice in using our turn signals, a friendly police officer will remind us. Then we have to apply a new conscience effort to remember to do it the right way. In my experience, some of these are easy and some are really tough, and, of course, everything in between.
For Amy, many of the changes she has chosen to make have had to come at Herculean effort and price. Quitting smoking, for instance, for Amy was unbelievable! I've quit. I've seen lots of people quit. But I've NEVER seen anyone have to fight as hard as she did! I met one other, once. The girl at the checkout line at Walmart. As we spoke about Amy quitting, I could tell by the way she talked about her attempts to quit, that this poor girl had the same kind of struggle that Amy did.
I've learned a couple of things from this:
First, some of us are just really blessed when it comes to these kind of things. We can make course corrections faster and easier than others. Or at least, so far we've been able to do so. Who knows what tomorrow will bring?
Second, my wife is incredible! To know and see just how hard she has had to fight to make the changes in herself she wants to make, has been a remarkable experience for me! I've been doubly blessed in that I also get to see such genuine, heroic effort and success right in front of me! I have a true hero in my home! What a fighter! I'm just amazed every day!
What's all this got to do with the fridge?
Well, Saturday was a very busy day. I spent the morning catching up work from home and getting ready to go to work. Amy spent it getting herself and Paige ready to go out for the day. Alex and Hayley spent it getting ready for
efy express.
I worked all afternoon and evening 'til late. Amy had a birthday party and a friend to visit and a short run to the grocery store. And the teenagers spent the afternoon and evening, into the night, at
efy express.
So, nothing got done around the house!
When Amy got home, she was hurting so bad, that she just collapsed into bed. When I got home I was so exhausted that I just tried to stay awake and talk to Amy. When the kids got home, Hayley headed for the shower and Alex worked on his talk for
Easter Sunday.
After a little while, Amy got out of bed and started cleaning. She doesn't want to nag us into doing what we should, but can't just let everything go. So she gets up and does it herself. When I saw her sitting on the floor in from of the fridge cleaning it out at midnight, I realized what had happened!
She had just done the regular cleaning herself. And since no one had joined in, she started on the refrigerator to work off her disappointment!
She doesn't want to be the nagging, complaining, drive-'em-before-the-whip kind of mom. She's trying to teach them to recognize and respond. But that's a slow process. So, in order not to rise to anger, she works thru it.
I wish I could do this better. Far too often, I fall victim to my anger and disappointment and respond less than nobly to the situation. (I must ask my family for forgiveness for this failure on my part.)
But not so Amy. She keeps fighting to be better. She's always reading some new book on how to be a better wife or mother. She's always searching out some new process to help us or to reach us. She never stops trying to be better. It's hard on her when the results don't come quickly because she's invested so very much into it. But she stays in the game. Always fighting.
She is persistent. She is determined. She only dreams big. She only tackles high goals and aspirations. She is strong. She is courageous. She is fearless.
I Always Love My Wife!
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